From Dream Sex to Dream Reality. (The ways of Tantra and lucid dreaming…)

Updated: 11th July 2018

Beverly D’Urso is a dreamer.

A lucid dreamer, to be precise, researcher and co-founder of The Lucidity Institute.

Dreaming is defined as lucid when the dreamer is aware that he/she is dreaming whilst in the dream. Depending on the level of lucidity, the dreamer may dream intentionally, and consciously design or alter the course of the dream.

“Lucid dreaming is your chance to play around with the extraordinary abilities buried in unused parts of your brain”, explains Berit Brogaard.

Beverly discovered her own “superpowers” early on:

“I could resolve conflicts or blocks, have adventures, help others, or just have fun. I could fly, visit places, people, or time periods, and generally ‘do the impossible!'”

She used lucid dreaming to work through relationship and fertility issues, transform negative emotions and overcome writer’s block.

She was also able to complete designated tasks for research purposes.

One such task was to have sex. And orgasm.

“In another ground breaking experiment, I was in the Stanford Sleep Lab, hooked up to electrodes and vaginal probes. My goal was to have sex in a dream and experience an orgasm.

I dreamed that I flew across Stanford campus and saw a group of tourists walking down below. I swooped down and tapped on dream guy, wearing a blue suit, on the shoulder. He responded right there on the walkway.

We made love, and I signalled the onset of sex, the orgasm, and when I was about to wake up. We later published this experiment in the Journal of Psychophysiology as the first recorded female orgasm in a dream.”

How’s that for a dream orgasm?

In another fascinating experiment, Barbara Carrellas, Tantric practitioner, author of Urban Tantra and Ecstasy is Necessary, and Dr. Barry Komisaruk, Professor of Psychology, Rutgers University, demonstrated that orgasms can come about through thought (i.e. focussed attention) and breath, without any genital stimulation.

The research team monitored Barbara “thinking off” in the lab, and confirmed that both brain and physiological responses corresponded to those of a conventional orgasm.

For Barbara—and most Tantric practitioners, including myself—orgasms are energetic in nature. They do not require genital stimulation, any other kind of touch, or even a sexual setting. (I describe more atypical—yet very real!— orgasms in the article “Tantric Orgasm beyond Masters and Johnson.”)

It seems to me, we’re barely scratching the surface of what our minds and bodies are capable of.

Sexuality is one area of human potential that remains largely untapped.

Consciousness is another.

I’ve found that both Tantric and dream practices open our eyes to the illusion we call “reality”.

It’s possible to see how we are limiting ourselves and to activate more of our potential.

New possibilities emerge, a new paradigm for life starts to take shape.

Starting with sexuality and enhancing your orgasms might not be a bad idea.

If your life is all stress and disconnection, reclaiming pleasure and joy can be immensely healing.

Furthermore, by activating your sexual energy consciously and powerfully, you will enhance your ability to manifest the life you desire.

You can derive immense satisfaction, and exceed your own expectations.

You’ll discover your own divinity.

Spiritual aspirants have been using Tantric and dreaming practices to connect with the Divine for thousands of years—and still do.

These days, dream incubation and lucid dreaming are cultivated widely for problem-solving, physical and emotional healing, performance enhancement, creative pursuits and innovation, for precognition and to influence future events, as well as for spiritual development.

The fact is, you are more than you think you are.

You have “superpowers”.

  • Are you using them?
  • Would you like to?
  • What would you like to see different in your life?

Please write and share: I’d love to hear from you!

Love & blessings,

P.S. Discover how you can activate your “superpowers” through dreams and conscious dreaming by joining my next Dream Circle in London:

“Dream Circle: Introduction to Conscious Dreaming” takes place on Sunday, 15th July, 3pm – 5pm at Benk + Bo, London E1 7AW.
Click here for more information and to register.
Use code WEDREAM for 40% off the standard entry.

P.P.S. If you’re interested in Tantra, sex and superconsciousness, contact me to request a free Discovery call.

Together, we’ll find the best way to fast-forward your journey to dream orgasms and dream realities!

As a man I’d experienced energy movement with previous lovers and wanted to learn more about that and how to increase sexual pleasure.

I wanted to get something more from sexual energy that what I was currently experiencing. There were also difficulties in both sexual and emotional aspects of my current relationship. It’s not on its last legs but things are missing.

I called Elena to discuss the session and she came across as having a deep understanding of Tantra and how it could help me.

We arranged a bespoke session, based on what I was looking for and what she recommended.

Elena greeted me at the door and immediately I was relaxed by her warmth and sense of humour…

Elena introduced some breathing exercises which we practised for a while, then she went into more detail about Taoist concepts on sexual energy and how it could be used both in sensual aspects of life but also in other areas such as work and achieving dreams…

The talk and education about Tantra really filled my mind with all sorts of ideas about how this new awareness about energy could help me.

I was totally relaxed and able to talk to Elena even though the discussions were of a very sexual nature at times…

The session really made me think about the big picture of my life and how I deal with things, about how much I have going on for me and how much I have to offer the world.

…the first session was just so mind-blowing in terms of beginning to get an insight into the world of Tantra and how this is so much more than experiencing enhanced sexual pleasure…

This first session also caused me to question spiritual aspects of my life and what I believe in, which I never imagined could happen.

I’ve started thinking about myself in a new way in terms of sexuality, again questioning things I’ve done in the past and how I want to be in the future. I definitely feel more positive in my outlook.”

~ Jimmy, tantric explorer