Check and see, if perhaps this is only about you. Check, what is the real motivation? Which part of you is hiding, which part of you is afraid, which part of you is needy.
And, likewise, if this person says or does something in a way that affects you, is that really true? Should you react to the outward movement, and feel or do or say something as a result? Before you react, take time to observe what is happening inside of you.
Each time someone acts in a particular way way toward you is an opportunity to practice the art of observation.
The moment you react, the possibility of choice and the space to see what is happening inside you are lost.
But do you trust yourself as observer?
Indeed, sometimes there is so much shadow we do not see clearly inside. Sometimes, there is so much suppression and conditioning, we are blinded.
The only thing that does not lie is the body.
So, feel your body. How does your body feel when you say and do what you say and do, or when someone else says or does something? Do you feel openness or closure? Relaxation and glow or restriction and darkening? Are you communicating and acting from your heart or from your head? What emotion is running through you? Do you feel safe, hurt, angry? Is the feeling somewhere in your body? Feel the emotion, feel the sensation, the temperature, the location, the quality, the colour and smell of the feeling in the body.
And when you know what the feeling and the sensation is, breathe it.
Breathe into it and with it, and let it expand and move, as it will.
Let your body move as it will, to unlock and let the energy flow.
And only after you have observed, breathed and moved, and observed some more, and breathed and moved some more, until the observer is clear, the body softer, the heart open, may you choose how best to serve the other — as yourself. This is the beginning of meditation.
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