From Dream Sex to Dream Reality. (The ways of Tantra and lucid dreaming…)

Updated: 12th July 2017

Beverly D’Urso is a dreamer.

A lucid dreamer, to be precise, researcher and co-founder of The Lucidity Institute.

Dreaming is defined as lucid when the dreamer is aware that he/she is dreaming whilst in the dream. Depending on the level of lucidity, the dreamer may dream intentionally, and consciously design or alter the course of the dream.

“Lucid dreaming is your chance to play around with the extraordinary abilities buried in unused parts of your brain”, explains Berit Brogaard.

Beverly discovered her own “superpowers” early on:

“I could resolve conflicts or blocks, have adventures, help others, or just have fun. I could fly, visit places, people, or time periods, and generally ‘do the impossible!'”

She used lucid dreaming to work through relationship and fertility issues, transform negative emotions and overcome writer’s block.

She was also able to complete designated tasks for research purposes.

One such task was to have sex. And orgasm.

“In another ground breaking experiment, I was in the Stanford Sleep Lab, hooked up to electrodes and vaginal probes. My goal was to have sex in a dream and experience an orgasm.

I dreamed that I flew across Stanford campus and saw a group of tourists walking down below. I swooped down and tapped on dream guy, wearing a blue suit, on the shoulder. He responded right there on the walkway.

We made love, and I signalled the onset of sex, the orgasm, and when I was about to wake up. We later published this experiment in the Journal of Psychophysiology as the first recorded female orgasm in a dream.”

How’s that for a dream orgasm?

Barbara Carrellas is a Tantric practitioner, author of Urban Tantra and Ecstasy is Necessary.

For her—and most Tantric practitioners, including myself—orgasms are energetic in nature. They do not require genital stimulation, any other kind of touch, or even a sexual setting.

It is possible to orgasm through breathing and, as Barbara demonstrates in the video below, through thought.

As you’ve seen in the video, Dr. Barry Komisaruk confirmed that both brain and physiological responses corresponded to those of a conventional orgasm.

In other words, Barbara’s orgasm was real.

As real as all the other atypical orgasms I describe in “Tantric Orgasm beyond Masters and Johnson.”

It seems to me, we’re barely scratching the surface of what our minds and bodies are capable of.

Sexuality is one area of human potential that remains largely untapped.

Consciousness is another.

I’ve found that both Tantric and dream practices open our eyes to the illusion we call “reality”.

It’s possible to see how we are limiting ourselves and to activate more of our potential.

Obstacles that may have seemed very real start to dissolve, and new possibilities emerge.

A new paradigm for life starts to take shape.

Starting with sexuality and enhancing your orgasms might not be a bad idea.

If your life is all stress and disconnection, reclaiming pleasure and joy can be immensely healing.

Furthermore, by activating your sexual energy more consciously and powerfully, you are strengthening your ability to manifest.

If you have a sense of purpose and commitment to a particular endeavour, you can derive immense satisfaction from fulfilling what you set out to accomplish—even find you’ve exceeded your own expectations.

You’ll discover your own divinity.

Spiritual aspirants have been using Tantric and dreaming practices to connect with the Divine for thousands of years—and still do.

These days, dream incubation and lucid dreaming are cultivated widely for problem-solving, physical and emotional healing, performance enhancement, creative pursuits and innovation, for precognition and to influence future events, as well as for spiritual development.

The fact is, you are more than you think you are.

You have “superpowers”.

  • Are you using them?
  • Would you like to?
  • What would you like to see different in your life?

Please write and share: I’d love to hear from you!

Love & blessings,






P.S. I’ll be discussing more fascinating case-studies and ways to activate your “superpowers” in my upcoming talks:

“What do your dreams mean?”  on  Thursday, 20th July, 7pm explores ancient  and modern understanding of dreams and their importance, as well as dream practices that you can use to improve your health and well-being, material success, relationships and more.

“Tantric Sex: is it for me?” on Wednesday, 2nd August, 7pm looks at fundamental Tantric principles and practices that you can apply to enhance your experience of sex and relationship.

Join me and you’ll make a good start towards dream orgasms and dream realities!

P.P.S. It takes courage to dream a new world into being. I’m very saddened by recent events, all the violence and death. I’m constantly reminded of how important it is for each one of us to be more loving to ourselves and to each other.

I believe in our power to effect change as individuals with a shared vision for a better world. By offering our unique qualities and gifts, being the best of who we are, we find fulfillment and contribute to the greater good. It’s all too easy to think ourselves powerless and dismiss our own importance in the grand scheme of things.

I urge you to take action. Dare to dream. Then make it real.